my authentic self

The timing of reading Eldon Taylor’s new book (I Believe – When what you believe matters) has been so apt for me and has started me on a bit of a “delve” into my own beliefs and values, something which has been a common theme in my universe at the moment.

Of late, I have realised that I am very good at what I do. Helping people. That’s my passion. And I had been wrestling with the idea that I might be seen as naive sometimes. I had a bit of a “D&M” (Deep and Meaningful) chat with my man recently when this very topic came up. When I voiced that I sometimes felt taken advantage of and that I felt this was my fault, and it wasn’t a great trait, he responded with “No, you’re a compassionate person and you like to help”. Being a helpful person is not a bad thing, it’s just something that you need to embrace, accept of yourself and apply appropriately. Ultimately, it’s good remember that in the process of helping people (ie; through my articles and blog) it’s probably a good idea for me to read back through these posts and take some of my own advice.

I value who I am as a compassionate person who likes to help people. That said, wouldn’t it be nice if I was as equally compassionate towards myself and help myself by doing so? And how far am I willing to delve into this part of me? Do want this part of me 24/7? In what situations do I want to apply it? In all of them or a select few?

Being clear about where, when, how and why you hold your values as you do allows you to take a few steps closer to being comfortable with who you really are and move towards being your authentic self, unconditionally, because what you believe of yourself matters.

If you were to pick one element or value that you sometimes wish you didn’t have, with what new perspective could you look at it from?


2 thoughts on “my authentic self

  1. Great post Dana!

    Compassion is probably the most challenging value of my belief system to scrutinise. Merely because in the caring/helping realm it is often the most taken advantage of.

    Learning to say no springs to mind when compassion as a value is discussed. I recently had to say no to a volunteer position I engage in weekly. I felt so guilty for saying I can’t help, because the empathic, compassionate self wanted to be there helping. Unfortunately my time is precious so a ‘compassion filter’ is often necessary.

    Just today I received a post from Denise Mooney on how to say no. I can post the link if you like?

    Keep shining, you’re doing an amazing job!

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